My family was always different. My older brother had epilepsy, a disorder causing brain seizures, resulting in frequent hospital stays, doctors visits, medication changes and anger outbursts. My mother struggled with severe depression and anxiety for decades and often spent time in hospitals.
My brother and I were different in so many ways. In areas he struggled, I excelled. He struggled with Spelling and Writing, and I won awards for my dedication and excellence in Foreigh Language Studies. He struggled to pass Spelling Tests and I competed in the local spelling bee. As different as we were, we had one very important thing in common: we loved our quirky family, spent hours playing games and spending time together, and we ate dinner together at the kitchen table. No tv or phone calls allowed.
Our parents also wanted us to have our best chance for success. Of course, this looked very different for each of us. I've always been an overachiever, so they encouraged me to "do my very best". My mother wanted me to be strong, have my accomplishments be recognized and control my own destiny. My dad believed I was a star and my brother thought I was brilliant long before I ever did.
My parents were the first on the block to get divorced... I was 13 years old, going on 20. Through their divorce and my mother's remarriage, my parents never stopped believing in me or telling me all of my dreams could come true.
My parents also made many mistakes during the divorce process and the process of marrying other people. I wish I could say both of my parents were kind to each other during these times in our lives, but that's just not true. However, their co-parenting relationship transformed from a volatile divorce to becoming Facebook friends 20 years later.
In 2000, a couple of years after my brother died, my dad remarried and I was blessed with another stepbrother, sister-in-law and nephew. Stepfamilies don't blend evenly, they clump together at weird, odd, uneven angles. They expand, grow, evolve and learn from each other.
After 25 years of being part of a blended family (at times, two blended families), along with 20 years of working in the mental health field (and two psychology degrees), and 10 years experience as a Child & Family Therapist, I love to help parents and families navigate relationship and co-parenting challenges during separation, divorce, post-divorce and remarriage life transitions.
Parents like the unique coaching, consultation and peer support services I provide, integrating my professional training and experience with personal hands-on knowledge of what kids and teens of divorced parents need.
“Sara is great! I’m really grateful to know such a kind spirit who always leads by example.
Her coaching is a reflection of who she is as a person, a remarkable human being.”
-Allen Little, TedX Speaker, 2020 #1 Rated Life Coach in Kansas City
“Sara is the best! She has an energy about what she does that is warm and funand great for children and adults alike. I couldn’t recommend her any higher.”
- Bryan O’Connor, 2014
“Sara is one of the most compassionate people
I have ever met. Her attentiveness, professionalism
and empathy are evident in both her public
presentations and individual sessions.”